Last night, when sleep wasn’t an option (thanks to the baby’s strategic kicks to my ribs), I thought about the future for me and T as a couple. Things will inevitably change as we get a third family member in April. It scares me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m really excited for this new life and so is he. We are ready. However, we are still so much in love that I can’t get enough of him. I’ve always been terribly independent, still am in many ways, but since almost two years now there is nothing better than to cuddle up in his arms to talk about the day, joke around and dream of things to come. We are that stereotype annoying couple and still very much in the “honeymoon phase”.
With a baby, priorities will inevitably shift. There will be another little person in my life more important than T. One that will get a lot of my love. It might make me tired and stressed with a short fuse, more irritability and less harmony. Yes, I want to become a mother but I don’t want to lose this wonderful feeling of intimacy that we have as a couple now. What to do?
My insomniac brain reminded of a blog series I read years ago called “Dating my Husband” on the excellent food blog Not Without Salt. The writer, Ashley, and her husband set a weekly date-night so they would not forget to connect and spend time just the two of them, without the kids or other people. To remind themselves why they had chosen each other in the first place.
At breakfast, T and I decided to do something similar. We will start a weekly date-night. On this evening we will try a new restaurant or bar. If the baby won’t take a bottle from the grandparents, we might stay in but we will cook something new, from a recipe. T and I eat really well most nights, with candles lit, thanks to our organic food delivery from Årstiderna so we need to take our date-night one step further if we stay in.
Here on the blog, that means a new series. I will review the restaurants we visit (mainly Stockholm, Sweden) for our weekly date or the recipes we try. Make mention of our favorite wines. And maybe share a word or two on our journey from couple to small family.